The new study on the Ideal (Russian) Woman has been done in Mai 2008 by the analytical center of SuperJob.ru. Representative number of Russian man gave thier opinion on the female ideal. Interestingly a strong differentiation has been found between a wife and a girlfriend. The grafic shows the results in Russian, I will make a short English summary here:
Intellect (important: she should not show it off, but manipulate indirectly, in order not to hurt the man): girlfriend – 46%, wife – 29%
Looks (important: form of fingers and toes, nails, skin, hair, breast form, figure, lips, eyes, nose): girlfriend – 38%, wife -21%
Femininity (important: “she must be a woman, and not an ashtray in trousers”): girlfriend -12%, wife -5%
I used to swallow books afterer books when I was younger, but I can`t remember any describing a romantic relationship of a couple AFTER marriage. At least not as a main theme of a book. Does it mean there is NO romance after marriage at all? OR does it mean people do not believe in that? Or they do not find it interesting enough to write or read about it???
Even fairy-tales of many folks end up with the wedding ceremony. At least in the Russian and Western literature which I read. As far as I know it is different in Indian literature. Any information about African or Asian literature?
Thank you for the feedback. If anyone knows a good book on romance after marriage – please feel free to list it here!
First of all, the best way to control anyone is to please. Surprised? Really, it is the easiest and the most joyful way to control.
Secondly, men like to be controlled – that is why they marry.They want someone to control them sweetly and gently, someone to keep an eye on their lives and mood, someone to support them affectionately…
A wise woman can easily control her dear husband by following simple methods:
1. Cook good food – and NEVER talk to your man before he has eaten! I mean at least do not try to discuss something important.
2. Take care of his looks – mostly men have a poor taste and are very happy if someone takes care of their wardrobe.
3. And… my favourite one is – give your husband a good head massage (daily if possible) in Indian style, with coconut oil. Why? Today we are all very busy with mental over- activity, men probably still more intensely than women. A good head massage removes the tension in head which every man person has after work. Normally one can massage 5-10 min, however my husband says “it can go like this forever” 🙂 You might enjoy the looks of your husband reminding this cat:
Vodka, oil, weapons and… Russian women – these are the objects of Russian national pride. I wonder if there is any other country in this world where its women are considered the national objects of value?
Being able to watch Russian women in their home country and abroad for quite a time, and being a Russian woman myself I want to share with you some results of my long-time observations on the subject of their nature. But first let me make one very important statement:
Every country gives its special colour/flavour to its citizens, due to the geographical, historical, cultural or many other reasons. Thus, I personally consider the women of every country a special object of value, kind of a priceless commodity, the treasure.
So what is there the about Russian women?
Face: Russian women are beautiful (at least this is what they hear all the time), they are aware of their beauty, they like to make themselves beautiful and they enjoy being beautiful. “Beauty will save the world” – is one of the most favorite Russian quotes apparently by F.Dostoevski.
Do men really inclined to forget their marriage anniversary?– that is at least what one can see in films or read in the books… Are they just more egoistical? Or simply because they are less “past-oriented”? (this is an argument my wise husband gave me).
In fact, that can be petty much true, for men are generally more future-oriented fellows (the subtle reason is that men are more on the right-side, towards future. Women – on the so called left side, past-oriented and emotional).
Whatever is the reason, I actually wanted to share with you this lovely videoclip by Abhay Sopori – Santoor Maestro Music Composer Dancing Dewdrops:
Isn´t it amazing that despite the hairdressers trying to cut the women`s hair short and do their wild experiments with girls` manes, the long hair is still alive and actually flourishing? Why do the beauties smiling at us from the ad posters in every corner of the world all have long hair?
I think in a way it is the same story as with marriage: even if somebody claims the institution to be dying out, there are some – probably subconscious – reasons for it to live forever! Long hair is known to be the first decoration of a woman. There should be definetly some connection with the collective subconsiousness of human race.
In the case of the long hair making any woman look beautiful and indeed attractive the secret is well known but well forgotten.
Since I moved to Europe from Russia I have been watching the relationships of couples over here. What has been puzzling me the most is the totally different approach to the relationships, the so called partnership pattern. They use that word most frequently as a synonym of a couple. But I can not get used to that business-like name for such a beautiful and prescious relationship. Is married life indeed a partnership? Or is it much more?
I could make a long list of arguments on the deep nature of a healthy couple relationships. And I love to speak about this topic. This time however let me just show you two pictures reflecting my opinion.
Since 10 years I have been watching all sorts of couples in the West and my expression of what I see is this: