Comments on: Do you know any books on romance after marriage?

By: axinia

axinia — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 09:01:47 +0000

yes, I know that. It is typical for the Indian tradition. But the question is why it is not so in the West????

By: Nova

Nova — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 05:39:55 +0000

Hi Axinia, A lof of Indian movies show love blossoming after wedding! Do you understand Hindi?

By: axinia

axinia — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 15:46:28 +0000

thank you Neelam, I never heard of that book, wich check it!
unfortunately there are not so many of such books..

By: Neelam

Neelam — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 14:20:43 +0000

Hi Axinia,

Have you read Louisa May Alcott’s Little women & Good wives ?

Little women is about the childhood of four sisters & Good wives their respective marraiges & the love which slowly blooms out.

I am sure you will like them.

Congrats for your beautiful blogs !

By: axinia

axinia — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 13:48:39 +0000

thanks for the hint, I think i never read this one but heard a lot. Will check it!

By: archanaccp

archanaccp — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 12:54:06 +0000

How about ‘Gone with the Wind’

one of my feverates.

Archana

By: Swaps

Swaps — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 07:44:04 +0000

How could I have not seen it.
One of my fav books IS SO RELEVANT to this topic.

Get it Axinia. I bet you WILL READ IT TWICE!

http://www.amazon.com/Presidents-Lady-Rachel-Andrew-Jackson/dp/1558534318/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1214466023&sr=1-1

By: Abhijit

Abhijit — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 08:10:32 +0000

Thanks Axina,

I agree with you, Love is full of joy, it’s essence starts only after marriage not before the marriage falling in love eith each other.

It is not just the desires of each other, it is the close relations of each other which shares the joy, that means only the presence/thinking of one’s patner with him/her is sufficent to enjoy the love after marriage.

This enjoyement is call cool breeze, which transforms both in one direction, both enjoys Creator’s gifts

By: falkschettler

falkschettler — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 12:51:19 +0000

yes: “die kinder der finsternis”.
mad romance

By: Swaps

Swaps — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:50:38 +0000

I feel there is something profound in what you say. You bet I will remember it.

By: axinia

axinia — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 19:39:18 +0000

thanks, Swaps.
I have also some history of “unhappy” love, but if I introspect, it is mostly an ego-driven thing. What I learned on my life that TRUE love is not ego-driven, it is unconditional and giving…ego-love is posessive – dont get confused if people call it love. But LOVE is a vast topic…:)

I read Bykov, Russians do liike him.

By: Swaps

Swaps — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 16:10:19 +0000

Axinia, its obvious you have been happy in love. Keep it up

But not all are lucky and this shouldn’t make their love any less true.

I think I shouldn’t have called it tragedy….’sweet pain’ is more apt.

Axinia, may I ask if you have read Vasil Bykov? For long, I have wondered what a Russian thought of his books. I liked them a lot.

By: axinia

axinia — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 08:59:29 +0000

I know what you meamn, swaps, but this is rather…silly love. Tragedy and all that stuff – it makes a drama, yes.

but it is not the true love.

The true love enjoyes and loves.

It does not need any tragedy

By: Swaps

Swaps — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 03:17:32 +0000

Axinia, I am trying see why the best works on romance are tragedies. They say there is no greater tragedy than being next to the person you love and knowing he/she will never be yours(married?)….just like in Cyrano de Bergerac.
Does this make it such a great work? If Cyrano had married his cousin, would it have been less passionate? Is this why there are no books on romance after marriage because love without pain lacks passion?

I am trying to address your question in a round about way
(I think the Italians have Orlando. And we have Urdu couplets.)

By: axinia

axinia — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 20:50:30 +0000

@Swaps,
may I ask you why do you recommend this novel Cyrano de Bergerac?

thanks, Katisommer! I hope we wikll get at least 3 things on the list…but by now it looks rather poor

By: katisommer

katisommer — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 14:29:50 +0000

I also never heard of such books!

but I will check later if you will still manage to make a romance after marriage books list

By: Swaps

Swaps — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 17:53:55 +0000

Ufff, my apologies. The pun was inappropriate.

I feel romance in youth is passion – the giddy, restless heart wrenching longing and pain that is love. It is fever, right? Writers can easily access this passion.

How can we invoke passion without separation or unrequited love while writing about post-marriage romance? Sure there is marital bliss, but passion, I think not. And poems are all about passion (rasa, in Indian literature).

Marriage being man’s creation can hardly appeal to poets, who worship nature.

Have you heard of the novel Cyrano de Bergerac. May be it is the right answer.

By: axinia

axinia — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 05:43:11 +0000

Swaps, I got you me totally wrong!

it is exactly because I enjoy my very romantic marriage I am just wondering where all the book about that beautiful state are?!?

By: Swaps

Swaps — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 17:29:15 +0000

This reminds me of a quote:

“The only cure to love is marriage.
And the cure to marriage is to love again.”

When you are young you are full of anticipation. Poets and writers work on this anticipation in you and churn out books after books. Once married, the spell is broken and their magic doesn’t work. So you don’t find any book. Simple

(Axinia, why are you getting these thoughts.
Someone should alert Volodimir