How to control your husband
First of all, the best way to control anyone is to please. Surprised? Really, it is the easiest and the most joyful way to control.
Secondly, men like to be controlled – that is why they marry.They want someone to control them sweetly and gently, someone to keep an eye on their lives and mood, someone to support them affectionately…
A wise woman can easily control her dear husband by following simple methods:
1. Cook good food – and NEVER talk to your man before he has eaten! I mean at least do not try to discuss something important.
2. Take care of his looks – mostly men have a poor taste and are very happy if someone takes care of their wardrobe.
3. And… my favourite one is – give your husband a good head massage (daily if possible) in Indian style, with coconut oil. Why? Today we are all very busy with mental over- activity, men probably still more intensely than women. A good head massage removes the tension in head which every man person has after work. Normally one can massage 5-10 min, however my husband says “it can go like this forever” 
You might enjoy the looks of your husband reminding this cat:
image by CeciliaC
A good head massage both relaxes and stimulates, one feels fresh and light – and becomes very comfortable for a loving communication.
Ah, yes – dont forget to make it look like HE is the boss
There are surely 1000 and one other great tricks, like the ones my dear friend Radha described here - whatever you choose it is only your LOVE that controls. For one can not resist the true love.
LOVE; axinia
axinia
Husbands ready to conquer the whole world!
Axinia,
You said: “men like to be controlled”
I guess women love to control men
Raj, this is a mutual thing I guess
That is why we complement each other so well, I mean a man and a woman in general.
Axinia, if you would not already be happily married and in best hands I would have asked you after this post
And I am with Raj 
Michael
I know this, Michael
thanks anyway…
Hello Axinia,
I thought the part about taking care of his looks was really very funny because I’ve always hated shoping for my self at “anytime” except with a woman and then suddenly I love shopping. Even my own sister filled this void when I was younger and now while I’m single I can’t wait for her to come home from Ontario Canada so we can do it again sometime. I think I have good tast but I’d rather a womans any day. She tells you what you like and what you don’t and in the end you think it was your opinion to start with. I can’t think of a single thing that I disagree with in this post. We love the attention and seriosly it does’nt feel like your being controled if you want to be.
Newfoundlander
Newfoundlander, I enjoyed your comment a lot!
I understand the felling of shopping with a woman – I love to help with shopping my male friends as well. This can be a lot fun and also very useful
and you are right, it is all basically about attention – who does not like it?
And if you know how to appreciate it, you will definely get a woman who will be able to give that…
Absolutely loved your post
, i’ll let any woman steer if treated like that. And you know what, how can you say no to anything that woman might come up with if she treats you like that? heheeh. Amazing. Now, I have a question, Is it a big percentage of russian women who behave like that? Or are we dreaming and hoping to find a woman amongst 100 who are not that way?
Enjoyed the post.
T.
Posts like this make me want to jump on a plane right now!!!!
T.
@T.:
About the head massage I am not sure – it is an Indian thing, unfortunately not much known in Russia. But there are plenty of other thing Russian women do to please the men – because the general attitude is like that, good man are not many so since centuries women learned /develops the tricks who to keep the men close 
to your question on a percentage of Russian women who behave like that…
I guess most of them – at least as far as cooking or dressing is concerned
Wish you good luck with your search for the Ms. Right!
Thank you. At least now I know where to look!!! So its a matter of getting there to start with
. So thats the next step. Ideas comments and suggestions are always welcomed.
T.
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Reminds me of one of Suresh’s posts: a loving relationship is where both parties are givers, not beggars. =)
really? I must have missed that post of Suresh, will have a look.
Both givers? sounds great, and actually works great. However the modern psycology cliam in a realtionship there is alway one giver, and one “comsumer” …what say?
I agree that in most there is one giver and one consumer. What is interesting is that if both focus on making the other happy and derive their own happiness from seeing the other one happy it is a never ending cycle of positive reinforcement. The only problem that exists is that selfishness has no room in such a relationship and that makes it a difficult one to find.
If found it can be so rewarding that its worth looking for it.
T.
it is worth
What I can say from my marriage, it works exactly the was you say it: f both focus on making the other happy and derive their own happiness from seeing the other one happy it is a never ending cycle of positive reinforcement. BUT ON ITS OWN.
The trick is really to get the right person!
And then the magic word is the MUTUAL NOURISHMENT. You nourish each other with the differnces in your temperament, in your energies (if you like this term). Mostly the best matching partener is not the one you feel immediately attracted to -but this is the point which has been misunderstood in the west.
Any relationship requires work. And in my opinion in the west many are expecting something miraculous to happen which will take the work away and make things easy. It is not easy, but it is rewarding.
We all have mood swings, so our partner will get them too. When they do, it is just a matter of remembering that this person loves us and we may not understand everything that he or she is going thru. That is why communication is paramount in a relationship as well as respect. In my case, that person has proven quite elusive, but still looking!!!!
T.
Respected T.,
Trust my good experiences with that!
Let me disagree here. I do not believe on working on the relationships, I believe on working on the self – if every partner does so, there is no need to do any other work
As you mature and grow (spiritually or personaly) you will get the partnener who in a way reflects your own level. The higher the level is, the lesser the possible probles are
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“head massage”?
surprised.
Point 2 is very true. I always wished that someone took care of my dress, the colour combinations and stuff cos Im clueless about such stuff.
When are you going to post ‘How to Control your Wife?’ I’ll be very interested in that discussion
Hi, jmjorat, I never thought of posting abouit it!
In fact, this blog is basically FOR WOMEN:))
But i will think of your suggestion, may be something will come up.
However…I guss a woman is impossible to control, because she “works” differently.
You are a genius….Any true gentleman, powerful and successful need and want this. He will cherish to have someone else in the driver’s seat for a change when he has always been in charge elsewhere. He will know what you are doing and will not mind a bit. He would love to have you use him. While you let him think he is still the boss…: ) he will also let you think that you are the eventual boss : ) bringing a successful and wonderful relationship which he wants. Who is the boss? will remain a mystery.
Lesser men… will never understand this and they will be the ones who will always fret about women taking charge and about letting women taking charge.
wise words, Richard
I came thru Vishesh blog. I think both men and women like to pamper themselves rather being say control. Control comes in between only in attitude, anger, abuse so on. All other things are shared and people who expect a lot well they are mama’s boy pampered even after their marriage.
some people say to control your husband is through his stomach ,
cooking food that your husband likes , some also say to control your husband’s money & his freedom , when your husband does not have money in hand he can’t go outside fool around , some also said the wife should dressed up as beautifully as possible to subdue your husband……
sounds like too much trouble. I have no idea how to be submissive nor do I want to. I’d rather stay a single independent successful woman who answers to no one.
A.G: it is your freedom
But love is not being submissive. LOVE IS LOVE. And if you love, you naturally want to please your beloved. That is natural.
hi axinia,
Like all women i am going through the same crises n problems, for my husband i am not important at all he likes to be with his mother and sister all the time and i use to get jeolous why he is not giving me and my kid time and when he comes to room he usually comes in room after 12 at night and i start fighting with him and then what happens is he start hitting me very very very hard and throw things on wall like perfumes, tv remote, cell phone etc almost everything is my room is destroyed even our hearts and next day to make me more jeolous he totally ignores me and comes in room more late and whenever i call him in room he denies to come and ask me to talk to him in loungh where his mother n sister are sitting. i am totally fed up from him his family he even dont alllow me to go out of home meet my family, friends according to him he dont like them and this is my home and he is my owner if he says dont meet ur parents i have to obey him as he is my hubby else he will divorce me. This feeling of insecurity is killing me and i use to think what will happen if our relationship will break and he now takes benefit of this thing whenever i argue or ask him for time forcefully or with love he use to say i will give u divorce if u will do this n that. please help me how i can control his anger and how i can stop myself from expecting from him and how i can make him loving and caring for his family
Dear Isal,
thanks for your comment and asking for an advice. You depicted your situation very detailed, thanks for your trust. However it is only YOUR vision of the situation and in every conflict we need to know the opinion of the both sides…you know what i mean.
Whatever is the reason for your husband bad behaviour, may be frist of all it would be useful for you to understand why he is so attached to his mother and sister – what are they doing differently from you? May be you could try to make friends with them and learn from them…
Then the best thing to change something si just NOT TO REACT – at least try for some days or weeks…see what happens…just do not say any thing when he comes, like really nothing happend. that will surely make a difference.
Normally the way people treat us is the reaction to our own inner state and self-respect. In your really sad situtation you anyways has to start with yourself, sorry to say so. It is a hard job, but very awarding at the end.
Even your idea to ask me about the situation here shows that you are willing and able to find the solution, and that you have powers to do so. ‘I am sure that your life will change and improve if you will really try to start with yourself.
hi there, this is someone who’s having a problem with his partner, this is so important please i need to speak to someone
dont know what to do to control my husband????????????
What do u do when your husband still dosent listen or give effection back, works long hours day to weekend 11 hours shift six days and sundays to rest on his own and has a child who doesnt even know the father.